How to plan a wedding now that you’re engaged


Are you one of the lucky ones who found yourself with some new sparkle on your finger over the Christmas period? If so, congratulations. Getting engaged and planning your wedding is one of the most exciting times in your life and in the excitement of celebrating with friends and family, it is only a matter of time before your head will turn to the actual planning of your wedding day!

For the majority of people, this will be the first major event that you have ever planned and so its only natural that you might be wondering where to begin and how to turn the ideas in your head, into a reality. To help you on your way, we’ve compiled our top tips for those recently engaged as prior planning and preparation is vital for a stress free and perfect wedding planning experience…we hope you find it helpful!

Celebrate with Friends and Family
It is likely by the time you read this blog that you will already have told your closest friends and family your exciting news and everyone will be giving you advice and asking you questions about your plans for the big day. People will naturally be excited for you both so its a great idea to host an engagement party to celebrate and marvel in the excitement as well as giving you the opportunity to have your closest friends and family together in one room. That being said, try to enjoy a few months of ‘just being engaged’ before jumping into the planning, feeling as though you have to have answers to everyones well-meaning questions. The engagement should be enjoyed in its own right first!

The most important decision to make is regarding money and understanding what you feel comfortable spending on your wedding. This can be a tricky and awkward discussion, particularly if you are looking for some financial assistance from parents, however it is vital that you know your wedding budget before you begin the planning. Everyone has an ideal budget that they feel comfortable saving and spending on their wedding and whilst the amount varies for everyone, once you and your partner have agreed on the magic number, it becomes so much easier to make decisions and understand what is achievable. Your budget will help you to prioritise your, “would like” and “loves” as well as define the all-important, venue search.

Guest List
The number of guests you would like to invite to your wedding has a big impact on your overall budget so before you start browsing the internet for venues, sit down and draw up an idea of who you would both like to invite. Do you want a small and intimate wedding or would you love a huge celebration? Give yourself a minimum and maximum number of guests to give you some flexibility when you start your venue search.

The time of year and day of the week when you wish to get married will also play a significant role in the early stages of your wedding planning. When do you want to get married? Do you want to get married in 2018, 2019 or so forth? What is your ideal month and do you have a preferred day of the week? Some of the most popular venues get booked up very quickly on Saturdays during the summer months so the sooner you start raising enquiries the more likely you are to be able to get the perfect date for you at your preferred venue.

Must Haves/Don’t Wants
Write a list of your must haves, would like’s and definitely nots. A great way to do this is for both you and your partner to write separate lists and then compare. This will help you with prioritising what means the most to you for your wedding. Is it all about having 250 guests, a beautiful marquee, a chart topping band? Define your lists, see what you both agree on and put these at the top of the priority list and then discuss the other elements which have cropped up and decide where they come in importance.

What do you want from a venue? Would you like to get married in a church, a castle, a marquee, on a country estate or would you like a destination wedding in Italy? Where would you like your venue to be – is their a specific county, country or location that is important to you? Do you want the entire celebrations in one venue and is exclusivity important to you? Write a list of what is the most important to you and then start to do your research. we would strongly advise limiting your search to two counties as a maximum as otherwise you will become bamboozled by options. Once you have a list of your top ten must see’s, email them with your initial questions to make sure the venue ticks a lot of boxes and then if they do, book some appointments to go and view them.

Do you know what style wedding you would like? Luxe, chic, minimalistic, traditional, modern? There are more choices available than ever before for your wedding day and so its important that your day is unique and personal to you both as a couple. Create a pintrest board of any images that you are drawn to regarding venues, tablescapes, colour schemes etc and use this to start creating the overall vision of your day.

Enlist Professional Help
Weddings take hundreds of hours to plan. Coupled with the fact that it can become overwhelming and stressful at times, especially on top of a full time job and other commitments. It is therefore understandable that many couples now choose to enlist a professional wedding planner to help them with their wedding day plans. Think about whether you would like to delegate some tasks to someone else, to give you some support and take away some of the stress. Would you like someone who can narrow down venues for you and provide a professional insight into those venues which suit your requirements? Do you want someone who can help you find those personal and unique touches for your wedding day? Or would you prefer to hand the reins over to someone else, ensuring that they bring your vision to life and connect you with suitable suppliers who match your brief and who come in on budget? If the answer is yes or maybe then it’s a great idea to speak with a planner to understand exactly how they could help. Consultations are usually free of charge and can be done face to face or one the phone.

We hope you’ve found this helpful and if you feel you would benefit from our help, just pop us an email or give us a call. We would love to chat with you about your day.

Congratulations again!

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